Indian Mail Order Brides
Indian women are the newest group of ladies to begin signing up with international dating agencies. They are signing up in droves for all of the same reasons that women from Ukraine, the Philippines, Colombia, and so many other countries have opted to, because seeking a Western man – even if he is ethnically Indian – gives them an opportunity to escape an overwhelmingly patriarchal society and simply have a richer, fuller life.
The Internet dating is becoming an increasingly popular way for women in India to find suitable partners for dating and marriage.
Even many of the most isolated Indian villages have internet these days, so beautiful Indian girls know that they are not completely bound by the restrictions of caste and geography.
For many Indian mail order brides marrying a foreigner is the same as escaping from slavery – a slavery of culture, religion, and family tradition.
It gives them incredible new opportunities that most would never have otherwise. A quick view of the news about the treatment of Indian women in the is enough to shock almost anyone.
Often the police do not protect them from crimes, particularly when they are committed by their relatives or spouse. And they are often “sold” in traditional arranged marriages. This practice is slowly becoming less popular, but it still can feel like slavery to a woman who is ordered by her family to marry a strange man.
But of course, the situations varies widely with each lady.
Why You Should Date An Indian Woman
If you are looking for a beautiful, intelligent, traditional mate then you should date an Indian woman.
There are literally millions of traditional Indian women who would love to meet an Western man, but most of these women live in India’s thousands of villages and small towns. In the villages India is still an extraordinarily backwards and conservative society.
Life has not change much in a thousand years, religion, and caste rules still control daily life. It is very rare for Western men to meet women from small cities and rural village in part because of the language problems, but also because there are not many tourist attractions.
But today – despite still living with same basic cultural rules and religious regulations as their grandmothers a thousand years ago – they know that not all women live by the same rules.
A growing number of these women have access to the internet and the brightest and most beautiful of these women are beginning to say, “Why shouldn’t I have an interesting life?” Indian mail order brides are not stupid. That is usually what sparks them into signing up with one of the international dating agencies.
These village and small town girls tend to be much more traditional – too traditional for most American men – except for men of Indian descent. For the millions of men of the Indian diaspora spread around the world a woman deeply anchored in traditional Indian culture might really be attractive, but generally those men find their wives through relatives and friends, not online.
Indian mail order brides are almost completely overlooked by foreign men, so they tend to be amazingly receptive to guys that take some notice on the dating sites. If this sounds attractive to you try to do a search for women from cities other than Mumbai or New Delhi.
This is a particularly good strategy for men of Indian heritage, because you can meet women from different parts of the country with a similar background and culture to your family.
This way you can meet a woman your family will approve of without having to go through the distasteful process of an arranged marriage. Realistically, women from smaller cities are probably the best bet.
Hot Indian Girls in a Modern World
Most Western men are more likely to be attracted to highly educated Indian women from one of the big cities. These women speak beautiful English with a slight accent and that is a huge advantage, because it means there is no need to try to learn a foreign language.
In general these city girls are a sweet combination of traditional Indian culture with the intelligence, education, and moxy of a Western woman.
Often a modern Indian woman from a large city seems a lot like an American woman from about 1950. They are smart and educated but completely devoted to their family.
Many of them are career women, but career women whose first loyalty is to their husband and children. A lot of American men find this mixture extremely intoxicating.
Indian girls are naturally quite beautiful with dark complexions and deep sense of fashion. Culturally they grow up in a society that has a history of deep sexual and religious passions.
When people ponder Indian women they tend to think of them as highly conservative. But remember, the Karma Sutra, literately the bible on sex for the last several thousand years, originates from India.
One nice thing about dating Indian women today is that most urban women are modern and cosmopolitan. This is important because it means that the cultural differences are a lot easier to negotiate between Western men and Indian women than they used to be.
The cultural differences are small and fading fast. Today many Indian women watch Western movies and television. They listen to Taylor Swift, but they are also still Indian women.
A prominent Indian film director recently commented that the cultural differences were disappearing because… We want their films, their cars, their planes, their diet cokes and also their attitude. The American way of life is creeping into our culture.
There is certainly a downside to this global homogenization, but it does make it easier to establish a relationship with a beautiful Indian woman. It also makes it easier to communicate with her and travel to see her.
Indian culture tends to be much more conservative than Western culture. It’s important to know when talking about dating Indian people, and Indian culture, that it varies so widely depending on where you are.
Arranged and love based marriages both exist in India. In the case of arranged marriages, the parents usually get together, then the children either say yes or no, and then the dating begins. In the case of love based marriages, first the daughter talks to her mother, then her mother talks to her father.
Some traditional Indian cultures look down on divorce, and usually even a widowed woman may have a very difficult, if not impossible time finding a second husband. For these reasons, usually Indian people tend to stay together once married.
There is a marked difference between western and Indian culture when it comes to romance. Western people tend to see dating as a process of trial and error while looking for the right person. India girls date in hopes of finding the right person that will ultimately want to marry her.
This is just not going to happen in India. Dating is not normal in India, with most of whether or not a girl will date depending on her family. With any Indian woman you are interested in, it will be very valuable if you get to know her family and culture. Then you will know what you can and cannot do in their culture.
Dowries are also common with the bride’s father giving presents to the groom’s family, even though this practice is illegal.
Indian Brides – Love vs. Tradition
It’s important to understand how an Indian relationship works, and how it differs from the western relationship ‘ so you can understand and thrive in your relationship. Indian people have a culture of extreme devotion, love and affection towards their partners. In that they treat their partners as an extension of themselves.
As such, they are willing to sacrifice for their partner’s well-being. Ultimately an Indian marriage or relationship is a partnership of love and caring. Respect and kindness towards each other are important values that should always be kept in any relationship.
It’s important to remember that 9 out of 10 marriages in India are arranged, so the best way to get into a long term relationship with a girl you like is to get on her parents good side.
Generally there is no wooing or meeting before the marriage, however there is an exception if you are a foreigner looking to meet an Indian woman, in which case meeting online is usually the easiest way to get the ball rolling.
Within India parents and relatives have a lot of say over a woman and her relationship. Often it will be the parents themselves who post ads online looking for a suitable match for their daughter. Generally courtship is not encouraged, and the idea of dating multiple people is undesirable to Indians.
It’s important to remember that in Indian culture the families’ interests are seen as more important than the happiness of the couple. So they will often push for a girl to marry more than they will worry about her romance with the man she is marrying.
In India the central idea is that it’s what a couple does together during their marriage ‘ not how they meet, which determines the happiness of their union.
However, it is becoming increasingly common for people to date in India without alerting their parents to what is going on. This allows the young people to get to know each other without the risks of parental involvement.
This is especially true of Indians abroad or dating abroad, where Indian people will often adopt the customs of whatever country they are in ‘ and dramatically reducing the influence the family has over the marriage.
Increased affluence has also reduced the appeal of arranged marriages and it is becoming more and more common for people to focus on love based marriages.
Subsets of Indian Dating
There are tons of hot India girls, because India is the seventh-largest country in the world by land area, and the second-most populous, and, as Indian newspapers constantly remind you, the most populous democracy in the world.
Because India is such a gigantic country, there are many different cultures and religions that you should be aware of if you intend to date Indian women. Here are a few of the more common subsets of Indian Dating:
If you are looking to date someone who is Hindu you should also be Hindu. Traditionally in India people date from the same caste and religion. You can also be of a higher caste and date into a lower caste, though it’s questionable if your family will approve of this (if they are Indian).
Any modern Hindu girl has been raised under a culture that doesn’t accept dating. While it is not an impossible feat, it is difficult. It also depends on where you are, for example if you are in a major city it is going to be a lot easier than being in a small village.
Hindu girls are traditionally going to avoid you, as they have been raised to avoid men until they are married. In order to meet one, it’s advised that you start slowly and build. You can begin with simple conversation and move forward by talking about Hinduism.
You should also know that if you date as a Hindu before marriage, and are discovered by a priest, they may attempt to force you into a marriage. This is only very conservative Hindu groups who have made such threats and in major cities it may be less of an issue.
Tamils can be found around the world in Canada, America, Malaysia, Sri Lanka, and of course, India. If you want to date a Tamil, going online can be an effective and successful way to meet someone of the same culture as you.
Respect her culture and traditions if you were raised abroad. Understand that she will have different boundaries than a western woman and those need to be acknowledged and respected if you are going to win her heart.
Show her chivalry and respect. Traditional Indian culture places great emphasis on treating women well and you can win her heart by showing respect to her, and getting on her families good side.
If you are looking to date anyone who is Desi, then we have several tips for you to keep in mind:
- Family is a big part of all the cultures that are Desi, so use it to your advantage and befriend your mates family
- Culture is going to vary from place to place, and if you are dating in a foreign land, most Desi people will pick up many of the habits and customs of that land
- Know what you are looking for, whether you want someone who is traditional or progressive, so you can avoid any heartbreak in the future
Overall Desi people can have very beautiful tanned olive skin and stunning features, which only makes them that much more attractive to date. Keep these tips in mind and you can enjoy greater levels of success in your relationships!
In fact, even if you are an Indian guy living in Mumbai or New Delhi you might want to consider IndianCupid, because it looks to me like they attract a lot of well educated, beautiful Indian women.
Best Indian Dating Sites
There used to be just a few sites for finding Indian women for marriage, but that has changed in the last few years.
For a long time our favorite site was Indian Cupid. It is part of the Cupid Media empire. It has a lot of profiles and is easy to use. DesiKiss, is very similar to Indian Cupid. It also has a sea of profiles and a lot of useful tools.
But if you want to meet absolutely the hottest Indian girls the two best sites are AsianDate and ArabianDate. Both of the sites are part of the Anastasiadate family of sites and they have all of the strengths and weaknesses of all the Anastasia sites. If you do not understand what that means go read our review of Anastasiadate.
Who knows why Anastasia splits profiles from the subcontinent into two sites, but I believe that Muslim women are more likely to be listed on Arabiandate and Hindu women are more likely to be listed on Asiandate, but if that is the general rule it is not absolute. There are a lot of Muslim girls on Asiandate and there are some Hindu ladies on Arabian date.
Matthew Harris is a Self Confessed Tech nerd who has spent the last 5 years traveling the world looking for love. He hasn’t found the right woman yet so he currently lives in Arizona with his 3 dogs.