Everything You Need to Know About Dating & Marrying an African Beauty
Of all the places in the world you might have considered looking for a foreign bride, Africa probably didn’t place very high on your list, and you’re probably not even sure why that is.
In this article we’re going to show you exactly why many African countries are a great place to meet women for marriage, and for reasons you’ve probably never considered.
Why You Should Consider an African Mail Order Bride
If you’ve grown somewhat jaded of the international dating scene, then you’ll find most African countries to be a breath of fresh air.
Because there’s no real “dating industry” in place here, although that is slowly changing. The reason for this lack of industry is because Internet access is still not widely available, especially in more rural areas and countries with less material wealth.
In fact, most developing African nations find themselves roughly where the former Soviet Union was at the end of the Cold War – emerging blinking into a modern world filled with technology and opportunities their grandparents could never have dreamt of.
One of those modern wonders is the Internet, but it will be decades before the entire African continent is connected to the web.
The reality is that Africa is an untapped resource for guys looking to meet foreign women for romance, love and ideally marriage. The women here are completely open to the idea of dating Western men, and have been for quite some time now.
Yes, you will be getting into a long-distance relationship, but you wouldn’t have started down the path of becoming an international dater unless you’d already accepted that as a reality. This means dating will be difficult, but ultimately rewarding for you.
Another reason to consider getting married to an African woman is that they actually want to get married. You won’t have to pressure them, or ask them if the timing for kids works around their career. Marriage and having kids is something most African women not only expect from life, but it’s something they look forward to.
Another major benefit is you get to date and marry a woman who is literally free of all the psycho-babble relationship advice women in Western countries are brainwashed by on a daily basis.
Instead of a spoiled North American or European brat, constantly demanding that you supply her with the latest fad or fashion accessory, you’ll find yourself with a woman who appreciates the simple things in life.
So, although dating an African girl might not be easy because of the distance involved, you’ll find it a lot easier than dating the vast majority of Western women.
What African Women Look Like
This is like asking “How far is up?”
You probably have a pretty stereotypical image of an African woman in your mind right now, but you have to remember that there are 1.2 billion people living in Africa. This vast number of people is spread across 50+ different countries, and across 7,000km of land.
It’s the equivalent of asking “What do American women look like?” especially considering how varied the ethnic mix is there – something that’s shared by most African peoples.
Many African countries are a real melting pot of genetics, from other countries and tribes within the continent, but also including French, Italian, Belgian, English, French, Arabic and other colonial influences.
One generalization we can make is that North African women tend to have slightly lighter, copper-toned skin, while sub-Saharan women tend to have darker complexions. This isn’t a hard and fast rule though, but just something for you to keep in mind.
But it’s not as simple as drawing a line across the continent to indicate exactly what women look like on either side of it. It’s far more nuanced than that.
Ethiopian women, for example, definitely display their European and Arabic influences. They tend to have straight hair, are slightly taller, have a long thin nose and skin that looks more Persian or Italian than African.
They’re still curvaceous but not in the same way that certain sub-Saharan women are. The same can be said of women from Somalia, Morocco and certain parts of South Africa.
Sudanese women, on the other hand, will tend to have darker skin, natural kinked hair and a different physical shape. But the thing is that even women from different regions of the same African country can look completely different to each other.
So, as much as you’d like us to provide you with an A-Z of African looks, it’s impossible. Well, it’s not impossible, but covering the topic would mean building a separate website, or several volumes of a book.
What you should focus on is that there are literally millions of single African women looking for a man just like you. And because the women here vary so much in looks and physical appearance, you’re pretty much guaranteed to meet your dream girl here.
Why Would She Date You?
The really blunt answer to this question is because she’s absolutely sick and tired of lazy, feckless, dishonest African guys making her life a misery, while also treating her as a second class citizen.
Sounds harsh, right?
Well, how would you feel if your husband felt entitled to cheat on you once he was outside the boundary limit or border of whatever city or state you live in?
Or if your family traded you off like a piece of real estate when you got married, asking for the ‘bride price’ in return for your hand in marriage.
Yes, that does still happen in 2018, and it’s not going to stop any time soon.
African women aren’t stupid, and they fully understand how much better life is in any Western country when compared to their own. You – the Western guy – represent opportunity and a chance for her to have the same quality of life as you. That isn’t all you represent to her, but the cold hard fact is that you have a better standard of living than she could ever hope for.
But there’s an important point to make here: Africa isn’t poor.
The continent still has vast amounts of wealth in the form of oil, precious metals and precious stones. But the majority of African governments are so utterly corrupt that they invest most of the income generated from oil and other resources in treating themselves like kings and queens.
You know all those Western feminazi types who yell and scream about “…the patriarchy”, but can’t prove any of their claims when challenged? Yeah, that’s because the patriarchy doesn’t exist in Western cultures.
Patriarchy does exist in many African countries and it has for several centuries.
Men come first, in pretty much everything in life, and women simply have to accept that. This is a cultural norm here, and something a growing number of African women want to escape from.
Western influences through the Internet, TV and other media, have shown them that being ruled by men simply isn’t viewed as being normal or acceptable in more developed countries. They know that in Western cultures they’ll be treated as an equal in everything in life, including in their marriage.
African women have a really clear goal – to find a guy who is not only serious about getting married, but also reliable both in love and in providing for his family. If you can offer her that then you’re already well on your way to winning her heart.
You Won’t Have Anything In Common?
We couldn’t disagree more here, but we totally get why you might think that.
Africa, after all, is a huge place with peoples and tribes separated by vast distances in terms of both their physical location and their history.
So, what could you possibly have in common with any African girl?
The truth is that you probably have a lot more in common than you think.
Africa is slowly but surely modeling itself to become a continent filled with modern nations, and all of that is achieved by imitating Western societies. Those that aren’t doing that are communist regimes that still haven’t figured out that socialism doesn’t work.
What this means is that African women are far more tuned in to what Western life is like than you might have first thought.
Like marriage for example. Part of the reason you’re looking for a foreign bride is because you want to get married, but only do it once. You basically have zero desire to be yet another divorce statistic, right?
Marriage is for life from an African woman’s point of view, so you instantly have that in common. A monogamous marriage is something she will expect from you, whereas it will seem like a complete novelty for you to meet and date a woman who has absolutely no interest in cheating on you.
Meeting and falling in love with the man of her dreams is something she’s looked forward to her entire life, so she’s unlikely to do anything to ruin that.
You want to have kids? So does she, and she won’t mess you around about it.
You want to share the workload around the home? So does she, because she grew up in a society where nobody else does the work for you.
We could go on and on here, but we hope you get the picture – you both might come from different backgrounds, but you’ll have lots in common.
Your only real barrier is language, but you can bypass that by learning French – an awful lot of African people still speak French as a leftover from French colonialism.
What Do African Women Want in Western Men?
This is another pretty broad question, but it’s actually easy to answer. She expects you to be healthy, strong and a good man.
That’s it. No talk of your bank balance, how many years are left on your mortgage, or how much you earn per year.
Now, that’s not to say that your average African girl wouldn’t love to meet a wealthy guy who could give her everything she’s ever dreamt of, but that’s not what she sets out looking for.
Women here have a totally different mindset when it comes to romance, love, dating and marriage. The average African girl would like you to be physically strong, but she won’t trade off that physical characteristic for a guy who treats her badly.
So, you can be stinking rich, but she won’t find you attractive if that’s all you’ve got going for you i.e. you’re a player and a bit of an ass behind the financial facade.
Health usually isn’t a negotiable characteristic. You have to understand that she sees a healthy man as somebody she can spend many years with, and have many children with. Unhealthy or weak men usually aren’t favored in African societies because they simply can’t compete with the stronger males. She expects you to be capable of protecting her and your children from danger if the need should ever arise.
So beta males and soy boys have their work cut out for them if they want to pursue and African bride.
If you’re worried that you can’t make the grade with African women, then just take a look at how Jeff Bezos transformed himself from a nerdy weakling to a guy who looks like he could choke you out with his left hand while still enjoying a mocha latté with his right hand.
Another thing African women love in men is decisiveness. You need to be able to walk the walk when the situation calls for it.
She won’t defer to you in all decision making, but she won’t be happy if she has to make all the decisions in your relationship.
African Dating Sites
The dating demographic in Africa has changed a lot in recent years, especially with more and more women moving from rural areas to the bigger cities. This is because a life in rural areas means subsistence farming and basic survival, with very few opportunities to further her education, her social standing or her income.
This urban influx means there are now more African women than ever before taking advantage of online dating. The only issue here is that although living in a bigger city allows for easier access to the Internet, it’s still nowhere near what you’re used to. She can’t just pop around to the nearest coffee shop, buy a ridiculously overpriced coffee and latch onto their free Wi-Fi for several hours.
Internet access is still shockingly expensive in most African countries, especially when it comes to data plans for a smartphone. There’s no way for most single African girls to afford a data plan or regular Skype calls with you, so don’t get offended if she seems unwilling to do that.
She’s not being coy – she just can’t afford it.
A few years ago it was really tough to find a good African dating service. However, today it has gotten a lot easier for guys looking for hot African Brides.
First, there’s Africa Beauties – they’re part of the Anastasia family of sites. They started off a little rough, but in the past year they’ve adding alot of VERY beautiful African Women to their site.
You may also want to look at Afro Introductions. They have a ton of hot African women – unfortunately, the site is part of the Cupid Media Empire so we can’t put any of their women on our site ( We don’t want the Cupid Media lawyers to come knocking on our door).
So, you’ll just have to go dig around yourself to find the hottest of the hot. However, Cupid Media is extremely tough on scammers.
You can sign up for free at both of these sites. Check them out, they both have some amazingly hot black girls who hold their own against girls from anywhere else in the world.
If you want more information on either of these sites, or other African dating websites, be sure to check out our African dating site reviews.
Singles ads in papers are, believe it or not, still popular here, simply because they’re far more affordable than a smartphone or dating site. That might seem quaint, but it’s typically what you find in India and other Asian countries.
What Dating In Africa Is Really Like
It’s all too easy to picture African women as starry-eyed, inexperienced and almost innocent. And while this is true to a certain extent, they aren’t shy when it comes to matters of intimacy, but only ever in a committed relationship. They view sex as one of the most natural things in the world to happen between two consenting adults because…well…it is.
Western culture has made sex and sexual identity so complicated that nobody knows their role in a relationship any more. You have men who identify as women on Monday, and as men on Tuesday. You have 70-year old men identifying as 7-year old girls. You even have grown men identifying as elves.
That doesn’t happen in Africa because…ain’t nobody got time for that. There are men and there are women, and that’s it. Their culture and society simply can’t support people who consume resources and find new things to complain about every day.
But never, ever assume that African women are easy to bed because of their healthy attitude towards sex. Doing that will bring all romantic moves to an abrupt halt, and you won’t get a second chance to make a best first impression on her.
So what countries might offer you the best chances to meet African mail order brides, or least the single African girls who might be lucky enough to get hitched to you?
The Ivory Coast is the first place to start. The country has come a long way in the last few decades in terms of women’s rights, so you’re likely to find a growing population of single women here, especially in Abidjan and cities of a similar size.
Nigeria is one of the wealthiest countries in Africa, and there’s an explosion of middle and upper class wealth here. More middle class people means more clubs, and that means more opportunities to meet single women. Lagos and Ibadan are worth taking a look at, especially because online dating is now just part of Nigerian social life.
Ghana might not have made your shortlist, but you’d be missing out. Cultural values here have changed a lot in the last few decades, and bigger cities like Accra have singles clubs and dating agencies – but they’re rarely the type you find online.
Kenyan women have a reputation for partying, and there are plenty of clubs to support this habit. Just bear in mind that as liberated as most Kenyan women are, they will still expect you to pay for dinner, drink, and taxis. Oh and bring flowers.
Are There Barriers To Marriage?
The biggest hurdle you face in marrying any African girl is the number of traditional dating customs that exist, although these are dying out in urban areas.
The reason why these customs are slowly disappearing is because African women no longer see themselves as property to be traded between families, to the benefit of almost everyone else except the bride.
The bride price (a dowry) is still expected in some countries, and this is something you need to be aware of because it can add up to a lot more money, real estate or other material wealth than you might have expected. It’s actually part of the legal marriage process in certain African nations, so don’t think you can dodge the issue by simply not talking about it.
Just make sure that you’re fully aware of all local marriage customs and traditions before ever even discussing it with your fiancée.
Certain African countries are predominantly Muslim, so getting married to a Muslim girl will usually require that you convert to Islam. If you’d prefer to meet and date a Christian African girl you’ll find there are millions of them to choose from.
Quick Safety Reminders
Most African countries are still deemed to be “developing nations”, so they have all the quirks and complexities that come with that title. Always check with your consulate or embassy for any travel warnings in relation to the country or countries you plan to visit.
Also be aware that sexually transmitted diseases are endemic in certain countries, particularly AIDS. That doesn’t mean that every other woman you meet might be infected, but you should never have sex without using protection, no matter what part of the world you visit.
Border conflicts can pop up from time to time, so this is something else you need to ask about before visiting certain African nations.
You’ll find that most African countries are warm and inviting places, but do your due diligence before you book your tickets.
You can get direct flights to many of the bigger countries in Africa, especially Kenya, Ethiopia, Nigeria and South Africa. For those countries that don’t have international airports, you can always get connecting flights.
Flying from Europe to Africa is a lot more straightforward than flying from North America, for obvious reasons. Either way, you need to budget at least US$1,000 for return tickets.
You’ll also need to book your hotel in advance, and the same with taxis or airport shuttles. The last thing you want to do is look like a lost tourist in a sea of taxi drivers all looking for your fare – you’ll only make this mistake once in your lifetime.
As you can see there are lots of reasons why you should consider Africa as an international dating location. You just need to plan your trip well in advance, and understand that the country is vast so you might need to make multiple trips to find your ideal mate.
San Francisco native and former T.V. producer. Toby has traveled to over 50 countries. He’s now happily married to a beautiful Thai woman.